For Ages 12- 17
Book Synopsis from the back of the book
In this hilarious, yet amazingly insightful book, discover teh secrets behind why guys and girls think and act so differently. Guys' brains have little compartments like a waffle, and there they keep most aspects of their lives separated. Girls brains are like spaghetti, because they tend to keep everything in their lives connected. Learn how to talk so a "waffle" will listen, and how to understand the "spaghetti-ish" conversations that you will encounter your entire life. Learning about waffles and spaghetti will make a difference in real-lilfe issues like dating, sex, friendships, body language, and communication skills of every kind. So dig in for the insights you've been craving.
Melissa J's Thoughts:
Guys Are Waffles, Girls Are Spaghetti is geared towards teens but I found that I was having light bulb moments for my own marriage as I read it.
For instance, my husband and I have had several "discussions" about violent video games and the fact that he will periodically watch Ultimate Fighting with guy friends. In my female brain, which strives for peace and harmony, men who try to come within inches of killing each other (you can legally choke someone in ultimately fighting, and if they can't breath, they have to signal, time out) these kind of things are a sign of disturbed thinking. But Chad Eastham explained that all to me in his book. It's called the amygdala and it's located by the hypothalmus in a guy's brain. Guess what it is responsible for? "Agression and fear-driven behavior".
Ah, now it all makes sense.
Well, kind of.
I still don't fully get it. But I never will. Cuz see, I'm like a plate of spaghetti and my husband is like a waffle.
On my plate of spaghetti in my brain, Ultimate Fighting means people getting hurt, which leads to what that does to a person's emotions, which then leads me to wonder how it affects their mental state. This then triggers me wondering how in the world this all affects their friendships and especially how it affects these men as boyfriends, husbands, and especially fathers.
Like cooked spaghetti that has no end and no beginning and is all entwined together with a helpless tangle, my brain sees Ultimate Fighting and travels down all these paths, almost simultaneously.
In my husband's waffle brain, which also has an amydgala, the guys are fighting and no one is allowed to get killed. It's skill and it's manly.
No thought of relationship or emotions or mental psyche being affected. Just manly skill.
Like a waffle, Ultimate Fighting has it's own compartment and it doesn't affect any other compartment.
This, is the premise of Guys Are Waffles, Girls Are Spaghetti. While we can hardly grasp these differences as adults, it can be even harder for teens who are in the midst of their turbulent years. Chad Eastham, in his collaboration with Bill and Pam Farrel, who wrote Men Are Like Waffles--Women Are Like Spaghetti: Understanding and Delighting in Your Differences helps teen guys and girls understand why such a gap exists between them in their opposite sex relationships.
This book is an easy, and fun read. Instead of straight text, it has comical notes inserted here and there as Chad banters back and forth with his female editor, as well as letters from readers and even illustrative pictures.
Guys are Waffles, Girls are Spaghetti is a great book for teens and parents alike. Not only will teens learn why differences exist, parents might understand what their wall is with each other, and perhaps even their opposite sex teenager. This is worth every penny invested!
Guys are Waffles, Girls are Spaghetti is a title that works perfectly for this book. It almost reminds me of a "Guys are from Mars, girls are from Venus" type of theme, only for teens. The book is written in a very humorous, yet very informative way. In the first part of the book, it delves not only into the thought processes of both girls and guys, but it also delves into the actual physical/psychological differences that make up our brains. (Sidenote: I love how the editor makes comments to the author, with a lot of them making me laugh out loud.)
Just reading the titles of each chapter shows you that these authors have a sense of humor and truly know their stuff. There are titles like, Chromosomes and Rocket Launchers, Excuse Me...Did Your Body Just Say Something?, and Talking More Better. In the book, it seems the authors are trying to help guys and girls not only better understand each other, but better understand themselves. It also explores deep issues amongst teens today, talking right to them, at their level, about dating, sex, fears that teens face, etc. The authors give real illustrations (stories) to make the topics "come alive" to the teen reader. In the back of the book is a Study Guide that your teens can use to help them make great use of the information they are learning in the book....it just guides them through the book with different questions and topics to really think about.
I definitely want to keep this book on my shelf for my boys. I would definitely recommend this book to any families who have teens or will soon have teens, especially if they struggle with getting along with others of the opposite sex, or even if they need guidance through some of the tough things that teens face today. Let's face it: our teens today need all the encouragement, Godly wisdom, and guidance we can give them. This, to me, would be a great book to start conversations, especially in a youth group or with your own teens at home.
*Disclosure: A complimentary copy of this book was provided to the Mama Buzz site and Mama Buzz reviewers, in exchange for today's blog tour*
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